The Indigo Children - 2 |
| Written by Tami Yaari |
| Friday, 14 August 2009 15:48 |
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The Adaptation Processes Of The Indigo. And How To Work With Indigo
Following article 1 on the Indigo Children: The Characteristics Of The Indigo Children And The Indigo Population in General
Spiritual children need a kind of practice which fits everything they bring to the life – a special talent and unique difficulties, in order to live a healthy and blissful life on earth, in this body, in this life time! In order to heal spiritual adults and spiritual children, one must first understand their unique characteristics, and then create a learning process and related healing approach. Better than this, of course, is preventive medicine and education, in order to change wrong patterns even before they become real illnesses. Already as fetuses, we accumulate an entire collection of impressions of the physical life to which we are about to be born: what is normative to think or do, what will be perceived as a blessing and what will be perceived as disgrace, what are mother's and father's boundaries, and what are the rules of the communication between them, how open are the various fields of life: the physical, energetic, emotional, intellectual and spiritual. Already in the womb we comprehend how much we're wanted, what's expected of us, and so forth. Even when we are fetuses or cute babies, very open and vulnerable, we form conclusions and choose different survival strategies. The meaning of our survival choices is often giving up knowledge and talents and parts of our individuality, which seem to us (many times justly so) as not in our best interest to reveal. Part of the shutdown and limiting indeed begins in very early stages. Part of the perception of children, that it is better not to express everything they understand, is a result of explicit comments and verbal prohibitions. For instance: start growing up, stop imagining all sorts of things". We gather some of the limitations from a connection to the collective awareness, with which we fall into line and endless gestures that implicate what is normative and what is not. With many of the Indigo Children, as we move towards the root of a certain problem in their lives, we soon get to a basic and deep feeling, that accompanies them from an early age, that they are different. Different from their families, different from other kids, different from the rest of the human society. Difference isn't necessarily a problem. Mozart was also different from the people surrounding him. Nevertheless, many Indigo Children interpret their being different, in spite of their difference being an expression of a special talent, as their problem. They fear that "something isn't right with me": why does everyone else but me get along here? I'm an outsider, I'm alone, nobody really understands me. Consciously or unconsciously they may tell themselves: I better hide who I really am if I want people to like me, accept me, if I want to be like everyone else. It is better that I teach myself to be "one of the guys". As uniquely developed souls, who possess high intuition and vision, the Indigo Children tend to take upon themselves the responsibility of leading humanity forward in the direction of a better and just future. It is in their nature, as we've said before, to be connected to higher intelligence, which can indeed contribute a lot in every human field: the social organization, science, art, etc. A combination of a sense of estrangement and incompatibility and the innate sense, characteristic of the Indigo Children, that "I have to lead, to show the way, to serve, to be at my best for many others" etc., can create a real misery. You see, these are to opposite tendencies. In treatment, this conflict will rise as a sense of great failure, with the saying "I'm not doing what I was supposed to do, I'm letting myself and The Creator down, I'm not worthy". The sense of estrangement can easily be intensified in the widespread educational system, in which uniquely intelligent and creative children encounter various difficulties: boredom, a lack of comprehensibility and a system that is not suitable for providing everything that an Indigo child really needs. Such a long time, hours followed by hours, days followed by days, years in an institution that does not understand what the child needs, results in the child's unease, depression, bitterness, despair, in some kids it results in an open or hidden rebellion. Nevertheless, it is important to know that there are some Indigo Children that do succeed, somehow, in overcoming the basic dissatisfaction and incompatibility between them and the existent institutions, and in spite of the difficulty of being excellent students and social leaders. Some of the children who have a hard time fitting in begin, to our regret, using tranquilizers, such as Ritalin, on a regular basis, so that the educational system and/or the parents have an easier time dealing with them. This phenomenon has become too much of an accessible "solution". That is to say, it is an approach that indicates the failure of the system and not the problematic character of the children! How do we tend to react when a child says that he/she is bored in school? Or that the teacher doesn't understand? That the learning material is stupid? That the tasks are annoying? Instead of being in a hurry to react to the children's saying, it is better to listen carefully to their complaints, and even to consult with them about the possible solution. How is it that children who "don't have the power" and the concentration to do their homework, sit for hours, with high levels of concentration, in front of computer games?! Maybe the computer games are at a higher level and are more interesting… I meet amazingly smart and nice children, who don’t succeed at fitting in at school, who suffer, who don't understand what it's good for, who the system itself thinks that they are problematic, etc. School was a waste of time and a great bore for me as well. Even though I was considered a very excellent student, the few good memories that I have from these boring years are creative classes such as carpentry, home craft and gymnastics. Luckily, I had parents who understood my situation and enabled me to go to work with them every once in a while instead of getting bored at school. These were days filled with learning and experience. Children who don't feel well at home and school make wide conclusions about life in general, since school, to them, is a central body, through which they meet society. The conclusions aren't always gathered in consciousness: for instance, that there is no room in life for their uniqueness, that it doesn't really interest anyone and that the way to succeed is through imitations of the existing models. They can, of course, be really good at imitating existing models, but the "price" for such a repression is the lack of real happiness, real life, and results, more than once, in physical illnesses: When a person chooses to limit their life energy or live a life "like others" instead of "like themselves", it will definitely be expressed in time through physical and mental disorders. Working with depressed adults, and with people who have different illnesses, that are seemingly a symbol of successfulness in terms of their career, it becomes clear to me, quite often, that these are people who built themselves according to role models, out of the disbelief that it is an actual option to build an authentic and blissful life. In general, we can talk about to types of adaptation: a "healthy" adaptation and a "deadly" adaptation. We have just discussed the deadly one. It is an adaptation to the current system: domestic, school, social etc., while abandoning the individuality on all its parts, wills, unique talents, etc. As I've already mentioned, Indigo Children may, out of frustration and misunderstanding and out of the fact that they've never been exposed to someone or something that suits them, choose deadly adaptation and survival. Luckily, there also exists a "healthy adaptation", which can revive worlds: the world of the Indigo Children and this world. This is an adaptation that doesn't give up individuality that is the basis for life, happiness and health, and out of the wisdom of the heart and personal, emotional and professional skill, knows how to realize itself within the current systems, and to improve them gradually. This is a possible and extraordinary challenge, for the sake of which these Indigo Children are here: improvement of everything that exists. What kind of educational people and what kind of educational systems do the Indigo Children need? As a first rule, I would say the Indigo Children need Indigo educators who understand them. As parents and as educators we can provide our children with what the former generation was struggling to provide us. We have very encouraging stories about adults who had gone through a developmental process and immediately sensed the change that was made in their children. Not only in their relationship with their children! But in the mental and physical state of the children as expressed in everything in their lives! With all the hardship that arises from the educational systems (and I haven't talked about the army yet…) we have to admit that it's not necessarily easy to be a teacher or a parent of an Indigo child, and in most cases the limitations and injustice are not made with bad intentions, but out of a real difficulty of the parents and teachers to understand "spiritual children" and to make room for enough resources for the very personal and patient upbringing that the children need. When I meet an Indigo child I feel a challenge and a unique status. I experience myself in an intensified way through their aware presence. As if they are putting a challenging mirror of truth in front of us: you can't deceive them, you can't hide anything from them, and you can't solve them in partial answers. This is a status of truth. Personally, it truly inspires me: For the Indigo Children a proper approach will be accepted with true thankfulness and with willingness to cooperate. Indigo Children feel intuitively how far they can "go with you" in talking "about everything". If you don't limit yourselves they will take you to amazingly deep philosophical and spiritual conversations. Indigo Children need to be provided with boundaries that are not arbitrarily based. This requires a lot of exactness, attentiveness and taking responsibilities from within. Arbitrary boundaries created rebellion, frustration and despair. Boundaries, based on wisdom and love, build a cooperative personality. Force will not work with the Indigo Children. Even if in the short run it will create "industrial peace"', the internal rage of the injustice that aggressiveness creates will, at some point, explode. Spiritual education: in my eyes, not panicking from spiritual contents is the ABC of working with spiritual people and children. Prevention, suppression or contempt of the worlds that interest children creates a barrier between children and adults. Even worth than that, it creates confusion and lack of self esteem in the children. In any case, control and strategic prevention don't work anymore in the education of the young generation. They simply obtain the knowledge by themselves (through the internet for instance), and then we have no control: over what kind of knowledge they're exposed to, if the knowledge they obtained is reliable, are its intentions good, etc. Meaning, if we, as adults, don't supervise and direct, the children remain exposed to abuse and misleading. The Indigo Children invite all of us to change In any aspect, they should be treated as a special blessing, and we should gather attentiveness, openness, willingness to participate in new processes, and, of course, happiness and love
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